Mark Kraus 尚武 (![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} markthepoet) wrote,@ 2006-07-11 09:01:00 |
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I Can't Get No....
Speaking of SPAM, another SPAM message received the same time as the one cited in the previous post came with the subject line "Can you satisfy your girlfriend?" This brings up a very interesting philosophical quandary. Can I truly satisfy my girlfriend? Or is my girlfriend's satisfaction completely her responsibility?
To put this into something that doesn’t sound as much like insane gibberish:
Is satisfaction of another person possible or is satisfaction something only a person can provide himself?
If my hypothetical girlfriend is not satisfied with my sexual performance, as the SPAM suggests, is it not her inadequacy which lead to the dissatisfaction? She chose to be with me. She chose to have sex with me. In choosing to do so she takes the risk of enjoying it or not regardless of my ability to perform. Since she took that risk, if she is not satisfied, it would seem logical that it would be her fault and not my own. She made a faulty decision.
To give an example of where this would be relevant and sticking with the topic of sex, since it is a fun subject:
Assume that I am the best at cunnilingus for sake of this example. Assume that my hypothetical girlfriend can only reach orgasm through vaginal penetrative intercourse. Assume also, though I think this is a much bigger stretch than the first assumption, I'm the worst in the world at vaginal penetrative intercourse. I am able to perform the best oral sex in the world but she cannot enjoy it as much as vaginal sex. I cannot perform vaginal penetrative sex and therefore she does not find satisfaction in our relations.
In the example, would it not be considered her fault that she is not satisfied considering she chose the wrong person to sleep with in order to be satisfied? It is like buying a hammer to paint a canvas with. A hammer is a great tool for many things but is useless for painting. One would hardly be satisfied with their attempt to recreate the Mona Lisa were they to attempt it with a hammer. We can’t blame the hammer for the artist’s dissatisfaction.
I certainly believe that satisfaction is the responsibility of the individual and not those surrounding the individual.
This is true with one exception being that if the person did not chose to be around those people. One example would be rape. I don't believe it would be an individual’s fault for not enjoying rape, though I guess on a philosophical level it could be seen as true. Some people might like being raped.
So, to answer the question posited by the SPAM: No, I cannot satisfy my girlfriend. That is her job.
-Mark
Speaking of SPAM, another SPAM message received the same time as the one cited in the previous post came with the subject line "Can you satisfy your girlfriend?" This brings up a very interesting philosophical quandary. Can I truly satisfy my girlfriend? Or is my girlfriend's satisfaction completely her responsibility?
To put this into something that doesn’t sound as much like insane gibberish:
Is satisfaction of another person possible or is satisfaction something only a person can provide himself?
If my hypothetical girlfriend is not satisfied with my sexual performance, as the SPAM suggests, is it not her inadequacy which lead to the dissatisfaction? She chose to be with me. She chose to have sex with me. In choosing to do so she takes the risk of enjoying it or not regardless of my ability to perform. Since she took that risk, if she is not satisfied, it would seem logical that it would be her fault and not my own. She made a faulty decision.
To give an example of where this would be relevant and sticking with the topic of sex, since it is a fun subject:
Assume that I am the best at cunnilingus for sake of this example. Assume that my hypothetical girlfriend can only reach orgasm through vaginal penetrative intercourse. Assume also, though I think this is a much bigger stretch than the first assumption, I'm the worst in the world at vaginal penetrative intercourse. I am able to perform the best oral sex in the world but she cannot enjoy it as much as vaginal sex. I cannot perform vaginal penetrative sex and therefore she does not find satisfaction in our relations.
In the example, would it not be considered her fault that she is not satisfied considering she chose the wrong person to sleep with in order to be satisfied? It is like buying a hammer to paint a canvas with. A hammer is a great tool for many things but is useless for painting. One would hardly be satisfied with their attempt to recreate the Mona Lisa were they to attempt it with a hammer. We can’t blame the hammer for the artist’s dissatisfaction.
I certainly believe that satisfaction is the responsibility of the individual and not those surrounding the individual.
This is true with one exception being that if the person did not chose to be around those people. One example would be rape. I don't believe it would be an individual’s fault for not enjoying rape, though I guess on a philosophical level it could be seen as true. Some people might like being raped.
So, to answer the question posited by the SPAM: No, I cannot satisfy my girlfriend. That is her job.
-Mark
